Sex Addicts Anonymous Primary Purpose

Recovery from sex addiction

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • What is sex addiction and how can I tell if I have it?

    What is sex addiction and how can I tell if I have it? There are many different definitions of addiction. The treatment and therapy industries probably have their own definition. The state/government...

  • How is working the 12 Steps different than therapy?

    How is working the 12 Steps different than therapy?   As a fellowship Sex Addicts Anonymous cannot express any opinion on therapy, good or bad. It is considered to be an outside issue (reference Tr...

  • How does this approach define abstinence?

    The Three Circles Using the Big Book     “Simple, but not easy; a price had to be paid.” Pg 14 (first paragraph)   As chronic sex addicts of the hopeless variety, we have little or no idea how t...

  • What are the Twelve Traditions and why are they so important?

    What are the Traditions?    See Individual Traditions     In the disease of sex addiction, we found ourselves unable to stay away from behaviors; that we admitted were killing ourselves and ca...

  • What is the purpose of 12 Step meetings?

    What is the purpose of 12 Step meetings?       We have experienced much confusion on this subject. We see two distinct subjects that need to be clarified. These are the fellowship in S.A.A. and th...

  • Why the Big Book of A.A.?

    Why the Big Book of A.A.? Back in the early days of Twelve Step before the existence of the Big Book, Bill Wilson in conferring with Dr Bob Smith (the co-founders of the 12 Step movement) both notice...

  • What are the Twelve Steps?

    What Are the Twelve Steps? The Twelve Steps summarize a system of actions designed to bring us into a relationship with the God of the individual members understanding. After we have worked the Steps...

  • Is this a religion or a cult?

      Are Twelve Step fellowships a religion? Are they a cult?   A.A.'s long form of the Tenth Tradition:   No A.A. group or individual should ever, in such a way as to implicate A.A., express any op...

  • What is a sponsor?

    What is a sponsor?  A sponsor is a qualified member of a Twelve Step fellowship who has been spiritually awakened as the result of working the Twelve Steps and shows another how to live by these prin...

  • How do I start a Big Book study?

    We recommend that you don't. The healthiest meetings we have ever experienced started by their membership focusing on that which they had power. These meetings weren't started until those who wished...

What are the Traditions?


 See Individual Traditions



In the disease of sex addiction, we found ourselves unable to stay away from behaviors; that we admitted were killing ourselves and causing harms in others. In the principles of the Twelve Steps we found a way to live each day by maintaining a conscious connection to a God of our own understanding. One of the great benefits of this new way of life was happy contented sobriety. We have found freedom from the obsession. We have RECOVERED and been given the power to help others. We have one way to recover in a 12 Step fellowship; we have one solution; we are unified behind one specific, precise, clear-cut message of hope to the newcomer that is contained entirely within the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.



In this program of daily spiritual growth we found a way to avoid a perhaps long, slow, and painful death; alone and in our addiction. As we grew in this program, as we progressed in this spiritual path, we came to some natural conclusions about recovery from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. We realized that to live free each day meant that we had to learn to practice the principle of humility. We realized that in order for the individual member to have a better chance of surviving the disease of sex addiction that there had to be a strong connection between our vital spiritual growth and primary purpose of the group to which the individual became a member.


 How grateful we were to find that the alcoholics had once again blazed a trail for us to follow. We often jokingly say, “The Steps provided us a way to not kill ourselves. The Traditions provided us a way to not kill each other.” These Traditions are a natural progression of the principles provided for us in the Twelve Steps. When we thoroughly followed the path of all the Steps and began to apply them in all areas of our lives, we found their practical application manifested as the Traditions. The Steps are a way for the individual addict to survive his or her addiction. The Traditions are a way for the groups within a Twelve Step fellowship to keep from destroying themselves. 


The Steps were a way to reduce our egos such that God could be present in our lives. The violation of these Traditions is a clear indicator that our egos are beginning to re-assert themselves. They are clear warning signs as to how our respective egos can get caught in a trap. When our egos swell, our sobriety becomes unstable. How each Tradition addresses these ego traps is a subject too extensive for this brief article and can be addressed in articles specific to each Tradition. The study and practice of these principles helps us to increase the humility necessary to keep pace with the progression of our spiritual malady. Without that essential growth our spiritual illness began to dominate us again, the obsession returned and a loss of sobriety was sure to follow. We have come to see the Steps as life saving and the Traditions as life sustaining.


It is important that we understand the gravity of these Traditions and honor how we got them. The alcoholics learned these lessons the hard way, out of their experience. Loss of sobriety is what followed when they failed to pursue this humble way of life. Before the Traditions were published many groups were on their own. Operating without a definite purpose became difficult. Outside issues began to wreak havoc on early AA groups. Many groups failed and most of the men and women died in their alcoholism as a result. How many more alcoholics died because there was no group to which they could go for a solution to the fatal illness of alcoholism? The headstones of countless alcoholics who drank themselves to death memorialize the lessons of these 12 Traditions. Our in-adherence to these principles only serves to trample upon their graves and dishonors the sacrifice they made. Our experience is that these spiritual principles are not outdated but still necessary for the healthy function of a 12 Step group of any kind.



Here are the Traditions as the A.A. Fellowship originally approved them in 1950:













Appendix I, Alcoholics Anonymous.




Many believe that the Traditions apply only to the group. To such folks we are eager to remind them that the group is comprised of individuals. As individual members of a group our actions reflect the health of our home group by our adherence or lack of adherence to these principles. Our history indicates that we were unable to find recovery in groups that disregarded these principles. We even had difficulty in groups that too loosely interpreted these Traditions.


We each began by practicing these Traditions in the business of our home group. As we grew in recovery, we began to see the benefits of applying them to our personal and professional lives. We continue to see nuances to their wording that cast new perspectives on our daily living. We have found our personal and professional lives much less tumultuous and chaotic as we improve on our ability to execute their instructions.


Bill Wilson wrote in the Feb 1958 edition of the A.A. Grapevine, “Groups have repeatedly tried other activities, and they have always failed. It has also been learned that there is no possible way to make non-alcoholics into A. A. members. We have to confine our membership to alcoholics, and we have to confine our A.A. groups to a single purpose. If we don’t stick to these principles, we shall almost certainly collapse, and if we collapse, we cannot help anyone.”


Dr. Bob (one of the co-founders of the 12 Step movement) once said, “It is far better that we do one thing well than many things poorly.” Central to all of these Traditions is our 5th Tradition. There is no other reason for a group to exist except to find, seek out, go to the still suffering sex addict who wants and needs what we have to offer. Most of the Traditions are designed to support that work. Some of them bring our attention to the things that can distract us from that work. The long form (not published here) carry a great deal more information and to offer our solution to these distractions. These were the original form of the Traditions and help us to see more of their spiritual intent. The second portion of “The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous” (a.k.a.: the 12 and 12), covering the Traditions, can also cast a great deal more detail on their meaning. That portion of the book is based on the experience of the entire fellowship that existed when it was published in 1955.